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"I Feel" Statements Vs. Accusatory Statements

Season #2 Episode #167

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In this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the impact of accusatory statements on relationships, addressing the roots of those behaviors, and the cost of holding onto those patterns. They also explore the implications on one's identity, family dynamics, and the necessity of transforming those behaviors for personal growth and healthier relationships.

Episode Summary:

  • Weak statements in communication. 0:03
  • Host Mark Santiago introduces the next stage of his podcast, "Empowered AF 2.0," focusing on healthy communication and personal growth.
  • Joey shares experiences of rejection and tantrums, encouraging honesty and maturity.
  • Dealing with rejection and self-reflection. 3:43
  • Feeling rejected during intimacy, leading to self-reflection on the stories they tell themselves.
  • Mark acknowledges the emotions that come with rejection and encourages listeners to explore their own stories and emotions.
  • Joey reflects on past experiences of feeling rejected and silencing their inner critic to question if they view deep connection only through intimacy.
  • Joey considers the possibility that rejection may lead to self-reflection and growth, rather than assuming the worst about themselves.
  • The impact of ego and accusations in relationships. 8:39
  • The importance of understanding and connecting with yourself before pursuing a healthy relationship with others.
  • Mark encourages listeners to examine their own emotions and actions in relationships, rather than blaming or accusing others.
  • Neil shares how his wife's infidelity has cost him everything - partner, self-worth, and time with his kids.
  • Personal growth and transformation after a divorce. 13:39
  • Neil struggles with defining a relationship with themselves before bringing it to the table, citing family problems and ownership of personal issues as major obstacles.
  • Neil struggles with forgiveness and detaching from the outcome of a difficult situation, and fears becoming someone new.
  • Neil identifies a lack of true ownership and clarity on the fact that the relationship has ended as the root cause of his struggles.
  • Personal growth and identity shift. 18:55
  • Mark emphasizes the importance of humility in personal growth, acknowledging that it takes humility to unlock growth and overcome ego.
  • Mark encourages listeners to stop making excuses and take ownership of their lives, recognizing that real men stop making excuses and bear their crosses.
  • Neil is struggling with self-deception and lying to himself, and recognizes the need to shift his identity to a higher standard.
  • Mark is taking action by setting new standards for himself and seeking